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Narcisist are skunks.

I was in the same situation for 7 years, this helped me so much, her story and life is so much like mine. I started to practice self love then i could see myself as an amazing person and beautifull, and i feel sorry for the younger version of me 😢

Thank you this was very hard to hear but needed

I will say that being an empath is truly real. To the point of feeling emotions of animals. This has been my experience. My ex husband narcissistic I was never attracted to, but felt there was no where else to go because my whole I had been treated badly. No one even wanted to listen to the pain I had been through even though I would listen to them. That’s how narcissistic everyone around me was. They hated my voice! I’m not exaggerating. Lastly I took responsibility by leaving and also healing. Unfortunately I found someone I was lightly attracted to but he was more of a narcissist than the first man smh. So even though these things happened it has nothing to do with being an empath or earth angel. In fact most people go through a toxic relationship at least once in their lives. I have a narcissistic father and had not healed that relationship. That was the main reason that happened to me. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Please, some people who call themselves these things are not truly these things. To be a true empath and earth angel you have to take massive responsibility, even down to the family bloodline, we have to heal our whole family lineage! So Do not let people give real earth angels and empaths a bad name!

PURE GOLD! Thank you Kenny!

So perfect. Everything you said I’ve recently learned already but unfortunately my subconscious is still beating me up for standing up to my parents abuse. What’s so frustrating is my parents agree I shouldn’t say anything to them and I live with them 🙄. At 27 they still want me to stay home and not have my own life.

Wow Kenny, thank you so much or this video and the gift. I just found your channel about an hour ago and am to watch your videos through the weekend. I'm having a traumatic break up (at 72) and am realizing the work I have ahead of me. I am grateful for this breakup because as you said it's a journey---and I am determined to enjoy it. So much love and blessings to you Kenny!

Well, I must speak my mind on this concerning you on those notes. You're still a cutie pie I believe as well as full of "Zest" in other areas that count Mostly beyond the shadow of a doubt😎👍

Good to know

🎉all done

So far, all your points are great but they won’t work for me. So the Narc is being the usual cu@t I can’t say anything because it’s wrong and if I say nothing I get gaslighting. Why won’t you answer me You’re so immature Etc If I say I am not engaging with you because you treat me like shit. Gaslight If I had the money to leave, I would but I don’t. Every interaction that is shit, im just going to say nothing and when I get the immature comments, I’ll just say go away. Just doing this will get me gaslight every time Every time I talk to him he has an attitude I’m always being reasonable and he won’t even answer me Why is he the way he is Basically trying to make me look bad when in reality I’ve been suffering my whole life and my cunt of a mother not only won’t show any emotional support but keeps treating me like i’m worth nothing. If I didn’t have health problems I would have been gone long time ago but it looks like I’ll die in this hellhole of a house. I always just thought my mum was not caring because she was always angry at my dad but when I got health problems at 19 years of age and got 20 years of hell and not 1 bit of emotion or love from my mother, I then realised that not only does she literally not care for me in the slightest but she’s absolutely twisted Narcissistic from hell. That’s how you find out if family love you. When you go through hell and they show absolutely no care. Who wants a new housemate? I’ll stick to my room and play nice music 😁

I work in a restaurant. I’m a people pleaser

Love the beard. Love your videos. Thank you.

Her feelings mattered they were important ,not to be confused with emotions, no no no , how they feel bored , angry , dissappointed , depressed , displeased , they need coddled placatted appeased!

Bzme at work now Sunday ten hours mayday!😊

Thanks Kenny W.😢

Thanks from the bottom of my heart too!🤣

Finding someone on UA-cam that helps me look within myself and helps me finally face the part I have played in all of this has been one of the most liberating things in my entire life! Video after video has been about how bad the other people are. You are one of the few who is challenging us to look within and do the work!

I don't much care about the difference. Both are dangerous for me to be around. Any one or 2 of those traits and I detatch to protect. I am in my late 60s now and have no use for relationships.

I've been firm about what I want in my relationship with my boyfriend and been firm on my needs as well. Everything just goes in one ear and out the other with him.

Issues in making the OS robust against narcissists

You are soo good at advising

My kids are my world. Son died at 17 from Cancer, daughter is adult and close. However I would feel like a failure as a mother/parent if they didn't have a sense of independence and living their best life without me.

You're telling my story. I do blame myself that my daughter's father took off when she was a year old Married when she was 5 & her step dad was the greatest. She was a great kid, no trouble or bad behavior.... until she flunked out of college, then she came home and became increasingly abusive to us, stealing, conning, being horribly disrespectful.

That’s so sad 😢

I was curious to see if there was any validity to this but just hearing about your confusion about boundaries, sir , is laughable. Boundaries are A part of every interaction we have with each other. I'll give you some examples since you clearly need some . Choosing whether or not to answer the phone or stay on a call is a boundary. It does not require someone else's understanding and approval to have them because they just simply exist. You choose a boundary when you decide to pet dog or allow them to jump on you. Boundaries are even a part of that word salad your narcissistic thinking suggested, answering a question with an inane question, invalidating and mocking your narc child like a true narc parent, because you are putting up a boundary to protect yourself there, see? Even when it's ridiculously narcissistic behavior itself! Still a boundary! 😂 To those of us who see through your crap, see exactly why your kid grew up to be a narcissist. That was your golden child. Look it up. Do you have another child? Who was your scapegoat who you maybe get along with? Because they are chronically people pleasing and too depressed and broken to see your abuse? Addiction issues? Here's a heads up because your sweet Scapegoat will likely be abused by someone else bad enough that wakes them up to your exact same patterns, like your word salad (look that up too). When you fail to take accountability, and you will fail, lol, they will begin their separation from you and after grieving The parent they thought they had and a life wasted as your emotional dumpster , they will transform into the amazing person you hated them for In the first place. The one that stood up to you at age four or five and got punished for it.. They'll no longer be your EMPATH, your comfort , your blame receptacle. They'll turn to people who deserve their amazing empathy, Not someone who sees it as a weakness, Like you clearly do . Because you're a narcissist my friend . A parent of an adult child narcissist, who is not a narcissist would simply be straightforward and have healthy boundaries for themselves like "im hanging up now." , low or no contact, and definitely trauma therapy. Fing mind games, are you seriously In denial that deeply? Oh wait, that's the whole deal with narcissistis. Duh. You're truly horrible. You're abusive. And like 99.9% of all the other narcissists, you'll get away with it and there will be no justice. Our world enables it like a strength, when in fact, you're the weakest people in existence. Too cowardly to take accountability and facr your own toxic shame. How worthless must you feel, to have to dump it onto your own child? Very worthless. Very very worthless.

Would love feedback regarding an old, "close" friend who ghosts you/light switches you, and whose kids are very close with your kids. 😬

Wow‼️ now I understand his behavior ; including myself too

This is good.

For some reason I have not connected with the definition of "The Worst Day, " what it actually is. I've read your books and listened to a number of your excellent videos. You keep repeating the words, but I've not connected with a meaning. Can you please say more about that, using different words? I'm told I have CPTSD. Don't know. But there were many, many many awful days, not one. Not an " inner child.". An "inner orphanage." Also there's a problem with the recording. It starts at about 10 minutes in, then loops back to the real beginning.

wow, easy to understand how we feel pain. enjoyed this video, thanks for sharing

My daughter's husband and his family play a big part in this estrangement.

Objectivity , and subjectivity, or we find ourselves battling with ungovernable passions , and unbridled romanticism!

Learned helplessness. Heal and educate yourself because something in you is keeping you stuck in an unhealthy/abusive dynamic. You're the second person in this tango. Take responsibility for that. Surround yourself with people who are safe and who can hold you to account. Understand that you have agency in your own life.

Thank you dear Kenny, I'm reading your book Your journey to being yourself and just got to the page with Qr code of this video... so true and overwhelming for me... I had to watch and pause many times ❤ and re-watching it now. Thank you !!!Roberta from Italy 😊

My goodness, thank you so much for the podcast. I make such a mess of my children's life. Here I set puttingbtogether my estate plan wondering if 2 of the 3 should be disinherited.

Amen

How can I help my Narcissist Hubby. How to bring him out from traumatized world

It depends on the sensitivity of the child to the parenting also. I'm the only child with low self esteem in my family. All the others say that their childhood was fine. Im the one that think my parents were troubled.

Vampires

With me they go directly to character assassination which shows me which people in the office i can trust.

😂 what is so confusing ?! Codependant should be in b spectrum weather you like it or not. Two sides of the same coin. The only differnece when you are in coda is double the denial. Every codepandant will turn a person next to them to an addict. Just face it 😮 how do i know bacause ive been in a treatmemt and programs for both. Go to 12 step like 100 meetings and tell me where this info comes from ? Both narcs and coda can be addicts. Truth will set you free... but first it will crash you. And there are peoople who suffer from both 😢

26:21 Best explanation of importance of grief I’ve ever seen, really helped me connect the dots, thank you

I can see in your eyes you have been there, experienced the narcissistic abuse. So few people experience(d) this, so I often feel alone, misunderstood. Good to know I, we, are not alone. Thanks for sharing this video.

Gets sad. Understand many years later how sick my upbringing was. My mother got involved with a narc when I was 9 years old. I became like a protective parent to my mother. She was so dependent on her second husband. But was totally absorbed by him. Got these disgusting energies into my own body. Like this was love. She relied on me. I became the one who didn't leave because I looked after her. My brother moved away from home earlier. I wish I had the strength to move and actually cut contact with my mother. Love her. But I see her clearly today and her game. She is not innocent. Taught myself her game. Had to start lying for her sake. In her relationship with her narc husband. Protected her.Didn't understand how much I actually took on.My own identited was destroyed and I became a servant and server totally.For her and her husband.Though my body was vomiting from inside. So somewhere inside the body it has said no. Only now 50 years later I go with myself. Not with this disgusting programming. Had to work hard with myself. See how quickly it has been possible to go into a similar scenario as with my mother and her husband.When I began to see the pattern.I could also begin to break the pattern.Become my own person. Thanks for your videos. Tried talking to my mom. But she becomes a grown child. Not looking to put her down. Without having a conversation. She runs away all the time. Which I now see clearly that the men I had have fled when I wanted to talk. Learned a lot during the years I have now been on my own. Been a painful healing process but I have myself. Know what I want with my life. But as I said. This is a job for life. Believe in communication. Without it, nothing works. I am me now and not my mother. Refuses to lie for her sake. She has a new man. He's actually super good. But her behavior is not gone. She wanted me to keep quiet for his sake. Then I said. I will never repeat the trip I did with my mother for 18 years. It's over now. No more ever.